Category: advice

Lidocaine: A little help for longer play

For most bottoms, the first sign that the session must end is external pain or soreness, which often results from repeated friction rather than from too much stretching. This is not a sign that should be ignored – as I mentioned before, pain means your body is trying to tell you something. Your hole will…


Chariot Fisting: Up for the Challenge?

Have you mastered regular one-on-one fisting? Are you bored? Do you need a new challenge? If you think you can juggle two bottoms at a time, I have a challenge for you. Chariot fisting refers to fisting two bottoms together – that is right, left hand for bottom #1, right hand for bottom #2. I…


Can you be a good top if you don’t bottom?

“I only play with versatile guys. You can’t be a good top if you don’t bottom.” If you are in the fisting scene long enough, you are bound to hear this at some point. You might even come to believe this. You are probably already guessing my opinion on this. But if you want to…


FAQ2: Do I need poppers?

After lube, the most common item in the fister’s shopping list is poppers. Most practitioners believe fisting is impossible without them. Is this true? Well, not really. I have had many fisting sessions without poppers. However, those times are a tiny minority of my fisting experience. So, are poppers really necessary for opening up to…


FAQ1: How deep do I need to clean?

This is going to be the first of a series of posts in each of which I will give a longer answer to a question I commonly get from people curious about fisting. I have given short answers to a lot of these elsewhere, but here I will go into more detail and provide more…


Choosing the right gloves

After lube, gloves are the most important decision you will make in your fisting career. Personally, I consider gloves essential, not only for safety reasons, but also because they make the process a lot easier. Taking off a pair of gloves is much easier than rubbing J lube and Crisco off your hands. Good gloves…


Make time for fisting

If you are enjoying the content and style of this blog, you are probably already aware of sex advice columnist Dan Savage. This post is inspired by something he recently discussed on his (amazing) podcast. Essentially, the message here is: “Good sex doesn’t just happen on its own. Make time for sex.” The discussion started…


Fisting positions – for tops

Sure, you are thinking, when talking about positions for fisting it is the bottom’s position that we have in mind: doggy style, on his back, in a sling, standing, and so on. The position of the top, however is just as important. The key things to consider are comfort for the top, alignment with the…


Amazing lube and how to make it

If you are serious about fisting, whether topping or bottoming, you will sooner or later want to learn how to make your own lube. Not only because it is much cheaper than relying on Vetgel or J-Jelly, but because you can also make lube according to your taste and the occasion. It is also much…


Fisting and Toys: Do I need them?

When we talk fisting, the fist itself is obviously king. One of the things that makes fisting much easier to approach than other kinks is the low “gear” requirement. Really, the only thing you need is lube. Of course there are many things to shop for that make fisting easier, safer, cleaner, and more fun….