I expect this to be a controversial post. Not only because opinions will vary, but because the definition of pain itself is vastly different among different people – especially among people engaged in kink. There are sexual practices that are enjoyable (to some) despite of the pain, and there are sexual practices that are enjoyable…

Fetish and kink – how do you use these words? For many people they seem to be interchangeable. When it comes to terminology, however, interchangeable essentially means redundant. In this post I describe the way that I personally use these terms. I am suggesting a distinction that I think makes both of these terms useful…

I get this question all the time: Why would you even want to do this? What do you get out of fisting guys? Does it actually “feel good”? I have had a lot of time to think about this, obviously. While you may not have, I think that the fact that you are on this…

Something that has bothered me with fisting and the people into it is the shame and secrecy surrounding it. I’m talking about anal fisting among gay men specifically, and the stigma and shame within the gay community. Of course I don’t expect anyone to be discussing their fisting practices with their family or coworkers, but I’m talking…