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Your Folsom fisting calendar!

I’ve noticed a few discussions in the last few days around the interwebs about plans for Folsom (Europe) this year, and I thought I would put together a quick list for visitors who might not know the “fisting facilities” in Berlin yet. Note that these are only the public parties, in BDSM clubs, cruising bars,…


Lidocaine: A little help for longer play

For most bottoms, the first sign that the session must end is external pain or soreness, which often results from repeated friction rather than from too much stretching. This is not a sign that should be ignored – as I mentioned before, pain means your body is trying to tell you something. Your hole will…


FAQ #3: Doesn’t it hurt?

I expect this to be a controversial post. Not only because opinions will vary, but because the definition of pain itself is vastly different among different people – especially among people engaged in kink. There are sexual practices that are enjoyable (to some) despite of the pain, and there are sexual practices that are enjoyable…


Review: The Boots in Antwerp

When I reviewed the 2018 of Belgium’s Leather and Fetish Pride festival, I mentioned that this year I decided to skip the official parties. What then did I do every night while I was in Antwerp? I am glad you asked… If you have any interest in leather, kink, or, you know, sex, you owe…


Fetish Versus Kink: A Kinkster’s Perspective

Fetish and kink – how do you use these words? For many people they seem to be interchangeable. When it comes to terminology, however, interchangeable essentially means redundant. In this post I describe the way that I personally use these terms. I am suggesting a distinction that I think makes both of these terms useful…


Event Review: Fetish/Leather Pride 2018 in Antwerp

If you like wearing gear, buying gear, dancing in gear, looking at guys in gear, or having sex with guys in gear, Leather/Fetish Pride (or sometimes Leather & Fetish Pride, it’s confusing) in Antwerp is the event for you. I don’t know if it really is the largest indoor fetish festival in the world, but…


What does the top get out of it?

I get this question all the time: Why would you even want to do this? What do you get out of fisting guys? Does it actually “feel good”? I have had a lot of time to think about this, obviously. While you may not have, I think that the fact that you are on this…


Chariot Fisting: Up for the Challenge?

Have you mastered regular one-on-one fisting? Are you bored? Do you need a new challenge? If you think you can juggle two bottoms at a time, I have a challenge for you. Chariot fisting refers to fisting two bottoms together – that is right, left hand for bottom #1, right hand for bottom #2. I…


Can you be a good top if you don’t bottom?

“I only play with versatile guys. You can’t be a good top if you don’t bottom.” If you are in the fisting scene long enough, you are bound to hear this at some point. You might even come to believe this. You are probably already guessing my opinion on this. But if you want to…


FAQ2: Do I need poppers?

After lube, the most common item in the fister’s shopping list is poppers. Most practitioners believe fisting is impossible without them. Is this true? Well, not really. I have had many fisting sessions without poppers. However, those times are a tiny minority of my fisting experience. So, are poppers really necessary for opening up to…