Sure, you are thinking, when talking about positions for fisting it is the bottom’s position that we have in mind: doggy style, on his back, in a sling, standing, and so on. The position of the top, however is just as important. The key things to consider are comfort for the top, alignment with the bottom, and freedom of movement – with the last being perhaps the most important.

Comfort: You are likely to be in this position for a while, so make sure it is comfortable. Make sure you can reach everything you need easily, preferably while your other hand is still occupied. Avoid unnatural positions. You do not want to keep your back bend in any way – not forward, not backward and not left or right. Varying positions throughout a session can also help keep you more comfortable. Both the top and the bottom can benefit from this. You also do not want to trap yourself in a position where you do not have a clear, complete view of the bottom, such as by burying your face in their crotch. Even if the bottom is facing away from you, you will get a lot of visual feedback (and hopefully pleasure!) from watching their body. (Tip: Use mirrors. Most bottoms enjoy looking at themselves, and it helps the top too).

Alignment: What I mean by this is how your position relates to that of the bottom. Ideally you want your arm to be as “straight” as possible during fisting. Now, this can happen in two ways. Think of keeping either your shoulder or your elbow at the level of the bottom’s hole. Obviously in the latter case you will be bending your elbow. You will realise quickly that when you are not correctly “aligned” the angle in which your fist enters can be very uncomfortable for both the bottom and you. Keeping your arm straight also helps the bottom keep his back straight, which generally helps them open up better.

Freedom: This is the key – you can compromise on comfort (especially if you are fit and flexible or if the session is short) and you can compensate for bad alignment. But freedom of movement is key. The primary thing to avoid is trapping your back. If you have to sit, use a stool or a bench – not a chair with a back. You also don’t want anything that you will “sink” into. You want to be able to move as much of your body as possible. Personally, I prefer to stand whenever possible. This way you have more options for where the movement will be coming from: the fingers, the wrist, the elbow, the shoulder, or from your whole body, even from your legs.

I learned about this when I took a massage course. Masseurs do not apply pressure from the fingers or from the wrists, but with the whole body, sometimes using their own body weight rather than muscle power. If you are going to be giving massages for eight hours a day, this is the only way not to exhaust yourself. This is why masseurs prefer to stand. They maximise their mobility and the efficiency with which they apply their effort. A massage table is actually a very good choice for fisting. Because it is adjustable, you can set it at the right height for both doggy-style and “missionary” positions.

For the purpose of allowing yourself maximum mobility, I would rank your options from best to worst as follows:

  1. Standing: full mobility of the upper and lower body. This is ideal if you can get the bottom at the right height.
  2. Kneeling: full mobility of the upper body, limited mobility of the pelvis, no lower body mobility. Fisters are the only tops that own knee pads, for good reason. Kneeling is usually more compatible with the average bed height.
  3. Seated (without a backrest): full mobility of the arms and shoulders, limited mobility of the torso, no lower body mobility. This is often a necessity when using a sling in clubs – somehow they never seem to get the height right.

Chairs with backs, and cushioned chairs, should be avoided at all cast. Sitting or kneeling on a soft mattress is also problematic. Wrestling mats are much better if you want to kneel next to the bottom.

You also want to maintain some distance from the bottom. You will have a greater range of movement and better visibility. Again, think of the massage table – the masseur’s subject is literally at arm’s length. If you are afraid this sounds clinical and lacking in intimacy, remember you are touching where it really matters.

I hope that you have found this helpful, whether you are a top or a bottom. We all need to try to keep each other comfortable! Let me know your thoughts, especially if you think I left something important out.