When we talk fisting, the fist itself is obviously king. One of the things that makes fisting much easier to approach than other kinks is the low “gear” requirement. Really, the only thing you need is lube. Of course there are many things to shop for that make fisting easier, safer, cleaner, and more fun. But at the end of the day, you just need lube.

So, does fisting make sex toys obsolete? Not by any means. There are many ways that dildos, butt plugs, speculums (or is it specula?), and other toys can enhance the experience for both top and bottom. I will try to go through some of the ways toys can be used here, but I am sure you will be able to imagine many others.

1. Toys for practice: I have already explained that I think of fisting, from the bottom’s perspective, as a sport. Well, an athlete will never excel if he only practices on competition days. Homework is an important part of being a fisting bottom, especially in the beginning or during periods when you just don’t have the opportunity to play with others often. One of the first questions I ask an aspiring bottom is: “Do you play with your own hole when you masturbate?” This is a very good indicator for me, that they are able to derive pleasure from assplay. Self-fisting, while hot, is much harder than letting someone else do the work – or using toys. The angle is just wrong for getting your own fist in there, so using toys will get you a lot further, literally. The type of toys to use for this depends on which aspect you want to work on: depth, stretch, and so on. A comfortable butt plug that you can keep in there for a while helps a lot, too.

2. Toys for preparation: Toys are a good way of making sure you’re clean and ready to go. Many bottoms are quiet anxious about cleanliness, and having a way to prove to yourself that you are prepared can help you relax. Don’t over do it, however, or you will make your session shorter. The toys to use here are “depth” toys: long, straight, thin dildos, depending on how long you plan to play for. A “snake” is a very good thing to invest in if you are getting into serious depth play. It will let you reach deep inside without stretching the sphincter muscles. Obviously, you will want to use lube when doing this – remember that water is not a lube.

3. Toys as openers: Now, you must be wondering, if I already have a fist waiting why do I need to use toys during a session. The truth is, you really do not. A fist is a very flexible tool. However, for many it will be easier to use a dildo, especially a very straight, not too long dildo, to open up at the beginning. You can keep a dildo perfectly straight (and if it’s smooth turning it doesn’t matter anyway). For some bottoms, the “twist” of the fist early on in a session can irritate the sphincter, and make the session last shorter than you would have liked. Some bottoms also like to use openers on their own before a session, for example plugging themselves while waiting for the top to arrive or get ready.

4. Toys as enhancers: This is where the real fun starts – and where, as a top, I spend most of my money on toys. As great as a fist is, there are sensations that you can create with toys that are impossible to produce with bare hands – see what I did there? The best toys for this will depend on exactly what it is that gets the bottom off the most. For example, a bottom that relishes the sensation created by the fist coming out of them, will probably really enjoy anal beads. These will feel like a fist coming out again, and again, and again, in quick succession. Obviously not a sensation you can give them with your hand. “Flower” butt plugs (for guys that thrive on feeling “full”), tunnel plugs (great for helping you insert lube), speculums for stretching, the choices are endless. I find it astonishing that people can still come up with new ideas for dildos, but have a look at Oxballs if you want to wonder on the extends of a pervert’s imagination. I would include different types of gloves as toys in this context, since they let you vary both the size and the “texture” of your hand.

So, just because you’re into fisting now, it doesn’t mean you need to throw the dildos away. Keep an open mind – and an open hole – and you can always find a place for them. Boys will always love toys!